Tired of Being "Let Down" By Others

"Don't try to manage and manipulate people. Inventories can be managed, but people must be lead (coached)."

- Observation from Ross Perot

Of all the concepts I have worked with clients on, this one has the biggest effect on their lives and businesses. All it takes is a small shift in your thinking, and taking a minute to sit down with someone and discuss what it is you want done, get an agreement of what you will do, and what they will do. You cannot manage people, but you can manage agreements. Read on and listen at the end to a short audio to further explain.  

From Steve Chandler:

You have two choices in your relationships with others. You can have relationships based on expectations, or relationships based on agreements.

Expectations are cowardly and self-defeating. They are cowardly because by expecting things of others I place all responsibility outside of myself. I expect my co-worker to do his job right, I expect my family member to behave a certain way, and the list goes on. When I am unhappy it's because of them. Expectations lead to disappointments. It's a miserable life expecting so much of others and suffering so much disappointment and betrayal.

There is a happier, more creative way ... a way that is both effective and spiritual at the same time, and that's a life of NO EXPECTATIONS. If something isn't happening, I create an agreement.
  
Agreements are courageous and creative. They honor the other person. They are co-authored between two composers of the agreement. People give their word and keep it. People honor agreements to a far greater degree than they live up to expectations. They feel stressed when your head is full of expectations of them. They feel pressure and resentment. They rebel. (Ever notice? Do you have children? Do you have employees?)
  
But create a good agreement? Both sides win. It's like writing a song together, like Lennon and McCartney writing together...."and, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."
  
Powerful way to coach and lead people.

For more details, listen to Steve's explanation here.

All the best, 

Rick Wallace